I often tell my clients that everyone comes into your life for a reason, and it's true. There are lessons that we all have to learn. The only thing is not everyone is meant to stay. Knowing when to let go is something that most people have a hard time with. It's either that, or people are too willing to say goodbye too fast. How do you know who is meant to stay in your life? In this article today I want to go more into this topic. Diving into knowing when to let go, knowing how to create healthy boundaries, and how to realize it's your life not someone else's. Living your life waiting for someone else just isn't healthy.
To start this off I want to share with you something about my life. Being a professional psychic, I meet dozens of new people per day, and some of them do become personal friends of mine. I get attached to some people and I know that isn't the best thing for me to be doing. Becoming friends with clients has led to issues in the past. Unfortunately, not everyone is your friend for good reasons, and in my line of work, becoming friends with clients makes the client feel that it's okay to get free readings. Sounds superficial I know, yet it happens all the time. I am not seen as a real person, I am seen as an object. People become friends with psychics for free readings, just like people become friends with restaurant owners for free meals. It's just a part of life. Anyhow, I let myself get attached and it never goes well. These clients of mine who I have gotten to know then try to get their readings done first, rush them, ask extra questions that weren't ordered and I have had to learn to put distance there recently. As mentioned in the beginning of this article, not everyone is meant to stay in your life.
I feel a sense of obligation to be there for everyone and I have a hard time sticking up for myself and saying no. To me, enforcing rules with my clients makes me look mean and that is not the way I want to come across. Over the past few years since launching my brand, there have been hundreds of people who want me to be their personal friend and I've let it happen. Lately, I have had to really put my foot down and create healthy boundaries. When someone friends you only to take advantage of what you have to offer them it isn't a real friendship and it is someone that is not meant to be in your life, which is the point I am trying to get to here. Saying no is not a bad thing. When you see someone that is in your life only for what you have to offer, instead of just being a genuine friend, please know it will never work out. You will end up getting your feelings hurt trying to keep giving and being there. Before you know it, you will be exhausted. When you stand up for yourself and create the healthy boundaries, letting them know you refuse to be used anymore, often times you will stop hearing from them. This is a normal thing, it just proves to you why they were in your life, and it's healthy to just move on from them.
This applies to love as well. I have seen countless clients come to me about love related issues. Often times they are putting their entire life on hold just waiting for the one they love to finally pursue them full time. While sometimes it does happen, the true connection does manifest, most of the time it doesn't. I have to tell my clients daily that they just aren't meant to be with the person they are in love with and that it won't happen. It is important for you to know you should never put your life on hold waiting for someone. If they love you, they will pursue you eventually but you can't stop living. You have your future to think about, and even if you are hanging on to the vision of you two being together, odds are if it is stalling there is a good reason for it. Knowing when to move on and let go is important. When you find that all the sudden you are looking at the clock, your inbox, your social media and your phone eagerly awaiting them to reach out and it just isn't happen, either you take the initiative to reach out or allow yourself to move on. Life isn't a game and none of us are getting any younger. You are more important than to have to think your life is this specific person.
It is time to cut someone out of your life when it becomes more of a chore than anything just to be their friend. There are billions of people out there and you are never just destined or bound for one person in specific. If they aren't giving you the love you deserve back, then they aren't the one for you. Love is a powerful tool, but it can also be a weapon. A self destructing weapon when you don't know how to control it. As mentioned in the beginning of this post, not everyone is meant to stay in your life. Learn the lesson, and allow yourself to move on. Never sit and cling to someone who just doesn't show that same respect back. Don't allow yourself to maintain a friendship with someone who is just using you for what you have to offer. It is okay to stand up for yourself, and when you do, you will see that you are more in control of your life than you thought. If you have a bad feeling about someone it's for a reason. We are all naturally intuitive, and it's important to listen to your gut feelings.
What I want you to take from this article is the fact you don't have to hold on to everyone that comes into your life. Before you know it, you will be trying to keep up all these connections and you'll wake up to see who is genuinely there for you, and who was using you. Cut out the loose ends. Your life is precious, surround yourself with meaningful people. Toxic people will always make you feel bad about yourself, like you are doing something wrong. Sit down and think about the people who make you feel this way, and delete them from your life. When you do this, when you realize that not everyone is meant to stay in your life, you will have that sense of freedom inside of you. That freedom without the guilt of letting someone go, removing them from your life. Once that baggage is gone, see how much happier you are, and see how further your life will take you.
Create the healthy boundaries, don't let yourself be used, let your light shine by not standing in someone else's shadow. It may sound intimidating, but you are valuable and you are worth it. Memorize this: everyone comes into my life for a reason, but not everyone is meant to stay in it. It is a good quote to remember. Always be yourself, you are the best 'you' possible and the rest will always fall right into place, as long as you stand up and believe in yourself.
Written by Demetri Welsh of the RVP Platform.